For many families, planning for funerals is not a subject that comes up easily. Many people die unexpectedly, making the subject academic. The question then is what kind of a funeral should a person choose when the last wishes of the deceased are not known?
Communication can be the key. Discuss the matter with friends and relatives. Perhaps someone does recall the deceased having made some comments, even humorous, about the kind of funeral and interment he or she would have liked.
What were the tastes and tendencies of the deceased? Would he or she have wanted a lavish funeral? Would he or she have enjoyed having many people attend or just a few close friends? Would flowers be appropriate? How about religious conviction and affiliation? Then make your decision as best you can, based on your knowledge of the deceased, and let the matter rest without guilt or second thoughts.