Sometimes the loss of a loved one can bring most overwhelming pain, the kind that can barely be endured. It may seem impossible to ever really recover from that loss, and yet most people do. Unless the grief becomes pathological or obsessive, somehow it does abate. No matter how intense, no matter how many mornings one wakes up feeling as depressed as the day before, time will come when the pain eases.
Of course, the sadness never disappears entirely, not if the person was much cherished. It is hard to imagine the parents of a deceased child ever ceasing to feel sorrow for their loss. It is hard to imagine how the survivor of a happy marriage could ever stop missing the lost mate, no matter how many years they are separated by death. Most of us, however, do come to terms with bereavement pain and do reach an ACCOMMODATION with grief. We may never forget the loss, but we can recall it with some equanimity.