Contrary to what you may think, a funeral is for the living. The deceased will never know what transpires, but it can be a source of great comfort to the deceased's relatives and friends. It can be the first step on the road of recovery from grief. After all, involvement in a funeral is a form of mourning. It provides opportunities to mourn the loss of a loved one or friend in the presence of others who also will mourn the loss. It gives one a time when family and friends can share stories about the deceased - even funny ones that may lighten the atmosphere with laughter.
In talking with friends before or after the ceremony, one is likely to learn new things about this person who was important in life. When friends or loved ones part in daily life, they usually say good-bye. If they part without saying good-bye, and uncomfortable feeling usually ensures. Saying good-bye is a way of saying, "I care about you" and funerals are occasions for saying good-bye.